‘I have no control over how others use a word that came about simply to save typing a phrase out over and over again’
In a recent article for this site, philosopher Dr. Kathleen Stock expressed concern over the definition of conversion therapy put forward by Stonewall and major UK mental health organisations because it includes both sexual orientation and gender identity.
Someone posted a motivational saying on FB the other day, as it happens I knew who shared it and why. I doubt this person expected me to take from it what I did, but there it was none the less.
I can’t remember it word for word but it basically said: You can only do so much for someone but they will not change until they decide to.
After read it I had to agree, it’s true. The next thing was realizing what it means is I have never made a real effort to change. Everything I’ve gone through, so much of it has been a result of my own actions, my decisions, reactions to things real or imagined…
All of the confusion, sadness, anger, and pain…
I did it all to myself… no matter how much I might wish it otherwise, there is no one to blame but me.
Transgender writers shouldn’t have to perform sadness or pain just to get published.
I thought these last two days I was doing better. I wasn’t feeling as much anxiety or depression and it seemed I had reached a neutral ground…
Now I think this was more of a disconnect, a withdrawal to a deeper place…
I realize I had no motivation at all and now an entire day has slipped away…
RACINE — Elena Dominguez has a good job as an engineer and mechanical safety expert. Now in her 60s, Dominguez has three sons and two grandchildren, lives on the south side of Milwaukee, and is a board member for the Milwaukee LGBT Community Center.
She’s happy, and even happier to be living as herself.
When the night
Silent and still,
Hard and Cold.