The Science of Being Transgender by Science Vs from Gimlet Media

The Science of Being Transgender by Science Vs from Gimlet Media:

Recently we’ve been hearing a lot about transgender identity. That made us wonder… what makes us the gender that we are? And what should you do if your kid doesn’t fit the mold? To find out, we talked with endocrinologist Dr. Joshua Safer, psychologist Dr. Laura Edwards-Leeper, and psychologist Dr. Colt Keo-Meier.

How to respond to questions about transgender bathroom access.

How to respond to questions about transgender bathroom access.:

“In the wake of draconian laws passed in North Carolina and Mississippi restricting which restrooms transgender people can use, much of the attention has focused on the economic and political backlash to anti-LGBTQ discrimination. Sometimes, public pressure is the best or only tactic that works, and it’s heartening to see economic and political costs imposed on supporters of these odious laws. But it’s easy to forget just how important private conversations can be to securing lasting social change, especially in a campaign where winning hearts and minds is a key goal.”

(Via. Slate)

Why We Used Trans* and Why We Don’t Anymore – Trans Student Educational Resources

Just wondering what other’s think of this.


Why We Used Trans* and Why We Don’t Anymore – Trans Student Educational Resources:

“Summary: There is nothing inherently problematic with the asterisk but it’s often applied in inaccessible, binarist, and transmisogynist ways. It is unnecessary and should not be used. Claiming the asterisk itself is fundamentally oppressive denies accountability and ignores the culture of binarism and transmisogyny that affects the community. People also often misattribute its history to cisgender and binarist people.”


Getting Personal on Transgender Rights –

Getting Personal on Transgender Rights –

“The remarkable success of the same-sex marriage movement is owed in large part to the willingness of same-sex couples and their families to publicly share their personal stories.

That same approach of moving the discussion from abstract principles to the sympathetic stories of real people also promises to be a weapon in the building battle for transgender people’s rights.

The reason is people like Terri Cook, the mother of a transgender son from upstate New York, who spoke at the annual dinner Thursday night of the Empire State Pride Agenda.”

(Via. NYTimes)

Facebook transgender suicide post: Hoax? Looks that way

Alright, I’ll admit to being a sucker if it turns out the “Kate von Roeder” story was a hoax.

I found this new story via.

It seems, after some digging, the entire story might be a hoax. Lexie posted: 

LEXIE CANNES STATE OF TRANS — On Oct. 1st, trans woman Kate von Roeder posted this on Facebook: “Goodbye, I’m killing myself.” She also tweeted something similiar on Twitter. And hasn’t been heard from since. Her earlier posts talked of buying a gun.
Kate’s friends replied urging her to reconsider, however the last several posts ended with “We just got off the phone with WeHo PD. She’s gone.” and “Kate followed through according to the LAPD. I am very sorry.“

She then goes on to explain why she is suspicious of this story and I have to agree, it doesn’t look as if the events took place as claimed. I have to say, I do hope this was a hoax. It may have been in bad taste, it might have been done for malicious reasons; I don’t care if it means this person, if they exist, is still alive out there somewhere. Maybe more important, it the awareness something like this brings to the issue of suicide and depression. Right or wrong, real or fake, it gets a conversation started.

So I might be a sucker or even a “shoddy blogger” but if it made you stop and think, then so be it.

For Those Reporting On Transgender People In The News

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Thanks to Chelsea Manning, the subject of how to properly refer to Trans* people when reporting the news is its self news. MediaMatters has an article written by Joe Strupp titled, “News Outlets’ Misgendering Of Private Manning Draws Criticism” which points out the problems news organizations and reporters in general are having when writing about Transgender people. 

In many ways having this discussion now is a good thing. As time goes on and more people decide to come out publicly, (as well as the many tragic stories about crimes against Trans* people), there needs to be an effort made towards polite, respectful reporting which is consistent across all forms of journalism, news sites, blogs, and print. By setting standards now it is possible to lay the groundwork for accurate information being passed to the public. It sets a new background from which to go forward and have the conversations which are going to be required for Trans* people to receive equal rights and respect in a bi-gender society which until now has been unable or unwilling to accept the reality of our existence.

It is clear there are going to be those who will seek to be deliberately cruel, who will attack what they do not understand, using any means at their disposal, including language. Yet, just as we have seen with the gay community, time will show such individuals for what they are and their hatred will be viewed with the scorn it deserves.


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Putting The Spotlight On The “T” In LGBT

For more than forty years now we have watched as the Gay and Lesbian communities have seen a increase in public awareness and acceptability. During the same time Transgender people and issues have remained in the shadows.

Today we are seeing being Transgender and Trans issues gaining public awareness. Yes, we are in much the same place as they were twenty, thirty, forty years ago and we are going to experience many of the same things. This means having to stand against prejudices, ignorance, and bigotry. We are going to have to speak out against misinformation, misconceptions, and misunderstandings.

It isn’t going to be quick or easy. In fact it is going to time consuming, emotionally and physically draining. It is going to seem endless and hopeless, yet it is something we are going to have to do every day for ourselves, for those who follow.

I could write post after post discussing the issues, but it would be only from my point of view and experiences. Just like the rest of the world, each Trans person is different and their stories must be their own. Yes, there is much we share in common, yet each of must speak only for ourselves. In the same way, it is to each cis gendered person, (those not transgendered), to educate themselves. To take the time and invest the effort to understand, just as they would regarding other LGBT issues and people or another nationality, another religion. It isn’t that people don’t want to be helpful, but like you, we have other responsibilities, other people who depend on us and in the end we only have so much time and energy. It helps everyone when they are willing to make an investment in being open minded and understanding.

There is a number of resources to be found online with a simple search. Just going to Google and typing in “Transgender” gave me the following:



American Psychological Association

Transgender Care

There are many more links to be found with this single word. There are many other terms you can look for which will yield  considerably more. Try some of these as well:

Gender, Gender Identity, Gender Expression, Transgender 101.

I Am A Human Being Before Anything Else And That Should Be Enough.

I read a post today titled: “The Transgender Realm“. The point of this was to ask that we as Trans* people not be offended or defensive when cisgender people ask us questions. After all, people are naturally curious about things they don’t understand and so they will ask questions. 

I can understand the sentiment behind this thought and I agree we should at least try to answer some basic questions. What I don’t understand is why some people think this gives them the right to ask ever more invasive questions and to have them answered when, if it were them being asked, they would be offended.

I don’t have a problem with talking about how I see myself or what feelings I have, but I don’t think you need to know if I am on hormones or have had / are going to have, any surgery. A simple rule of thumb, stop and think for a moment about if you would be offended if someone asked you the question your about to ask me. If the answer is “yes” or “maybe”, then don’t ask or else don’t be surprised if I am.

Now, since we are speaking of questions, I have something I would like to know…

Why is it any cisgendered person or straight person feels they have a right to demand to know why I am the way I am? Do I ask you why you are the way you are? Should I feel free to make assumptions about you, what you wear, who you sleep with? 

This argument of it being my or anyone else’s responsibility to help you understand who and what we are doesn’t wash. It isn’t my responsibility to provide your education, it is yours to take the time and make an effort to learn for yourself just as we have done. 

And one last thing…

My desire to enjoy the same rights and privileges as everyone else shouldn’t depend on my willingness to be a poster girl for Trans people or the LGBT community. 

I am a human being before anything else and that should be enough.