Crossdreamers: Resources for Partners of Transgender People

Crossdreamers: Resources for Partners of Transgender People:

“When I found out my husband is a woman inside, I started googling. I wanted to find information for people who have a transgender spouse, forums with support for partners of transgender people and stories of couples that had found a way to make it work. Here is what I have found.”

Mt Reading Today

Government surveys schools’ stand on gender identity disorder

The Ministry of Education, Culture, Sports, Science and Technology (MEXT) has launched a survey nationwide to schools on how they deal with the issue of gender identity disorder (GID) in their institutions. All schools from the elementary, junior and senior high school levels were included as participants of the survey.

Source: JDP


Fox News, CNN Ignore Their Own Advice On Transgender Coverage

Media critics on Fox News and CNN criticized a recent article that outed the inventor of a golf putter as a transgender woman. The two networks’ history of problematic transgender coverage suggests that CNN and Fox could stand to take their own advice.

Source: MediaMatters


Taking a stand: No jobs, no rights, transgender community decry social apathy

 Transgender and social activists have decided to kick off a rights campaign from today in the wake of recent police raids and discriminatory television programmes that have allegedly shown the community in a negative light.

Source: The Express Tribune


Transgender Men And Dating: Elliott Deline, Bill Roundy And Matt Kailey On HuffPost Live

HuffPost Live guests offered their advice regarding transgender men and dating as part of a spirited discussion last week.

Source: Huffingtonpost


Transgender Musician Rae Spoon Takes On Sundance

At Sundance Film Festival’s Music Café last Tuesday, musician Rae Spoon sings on stage, armed with a guitar and laptop. Beginning with acoustic folk ballads, Spoon’s set eventually moves to a more electronic indie-pop-rock sound reminiscent of groups like Metric and Tegan and Sara. To explain the palatable shift, Spoon jokingly prefaces one of their (being transgender, Spoon prefers using gender-neutral pronouns) more experimental songs: “I was really inspired by the folk music in Germany—which is techno.”

Source: The Daily Beast

News Of Interest

Ex-governor of Virginia indicted after corruption probe

Jan 21 (Reuters) – Former Virginia governor Robert McDonnell and his wife, Maureen, were indicted by a federal grand jury on charges including fraud and false statements after an investigation into loans and gifts from a supporter, court papers filed on Tuesday said.

Source: Reuters


1 Dead in Purdue Shooting; Suspect in Custody

A man opened fire Tuesday inside a basement classroom at Purdue University, killing one person and prompting officials to send a text alert to students telling them to seek shelter, police and the university said.

The suspect, who is believed to have targeted the man who was shot, surrendered to a police officer within minutes of the attack at the Electrical Engineering Building, Purdue Police Chief John Cox said.

Source: ABC News


Nearly 3,000 US Flights Cancelled As Snow Hits Northeast

More than 2,900 flights into, out of, and within the U.S. have been cancelled today, as the Northeast braces for another wave of freezing weather and heavy snow.

Source: SFGate


$1 Billion for a Perfect N.C.A.A. Bracket, Courtesy of Warren Buffett

Each March, tens of millions of brackets are filled out in the hopes of predicting the outcome of the N.C.A.A.’s men’s basketball tournament. But the odds that a bracket will be perfect, that is, every game guessed correctly, are long — to the tune of 9.2 quintillion to one.

Source: NYTimes


Pope to global elite: Do more for poor

n an address read by Cardinal Peter Turkson at the World Economic Forum in Davos, Switzerland, the leader of the world’s 1.2 billion Catholics said it was intolerable that thousands die each day from hunger.The pope urged leaders to adopt a new “political and business mentality” and to put their skills to work for the benefit of those living in dire poverty.

Source: CNN



If your password is “123456” or ”Password,” you’re doing Internet security wrong — and you’re not alone. According to password-management firm SplashData, which analyzed passwords that hackers posted online last year, the top two most common passwords are “123456,” and “Password.” Good job, people. 

Source: Bustle

News For January 14th.

California: School board leader wants charges dropped against transgender teen 

The president of the West Contra Costa Unified School District’s board said he wants prosecutors to drop the criminal charge against an allegedly bullied transgender teen involved in a fight at Hercules High School.

Source: CBS San Francisco


Texas: Couple dead in murder-suicide in San Antonio 

  Two men were found dead in a North Side home Saturday in what police are investigating as a murder-suicide.

“They were a really nice couple,” said a woman who lives across the street. “They had just moved here from the Valley.”



Virginia: Democrats pledge push for gay-friendly laws 

Democratic lawmakers have pledged to try and make gay marriage legal in Virginia.

The legislators, speaking Monday at a news conference, say they also plan to push a slew of bills during the 2014 legislative session to make the commonwealth friendlier to gays.

Source: Associated Press


Indiana: House panel postpones vote on gay marriage ban amendment  

People on both sides of the debate over Indiana’s proposed same sex marriage ban amendment spoke passionately for hours in front of a packed House chamber today.



New Jersey: Gov. Christie vetoes transgender rights bill 

The embattled New Jersey governor signed 12 bills into law on Monday, and vetoed 10 others–including a bill that would allow transgender individuals to amend their birth certificates.

“Unlike many other states, New Jersey already has an administrative process in place to streamline applications to amend birth certificates for gender purposes without court order,” Christie said in a veto statement. “Under the proposal before me, however, the sponsors seek to alter the amended birth certificate application process without maintaining appropriate safeguards. Consequently, further consideration is necessary to determine whether to make such significant changes to State law concerning the issuance of vital records.”

Source: MSNBC

Transgender Resources: National Center For Transgender Equality (NCTE)

National Center for Transgender Equality

From their website:

About NCTE
NCTE StaffNCTE Staff and Interns, Winter 2009, at the Leadership Conference on Civil Rights
The National Center for Transgender Equality (NCTE) is a 501(c)3 social justice organization dedicated to advancing the equality of transgender people through advocacy, collaboration and empowerment.
NCTE was founded in 2003 by transgender activists who saw the urgent need for a consistent voice in Washington DC for transgender people.
NCTE provides this presence by monitoring federal activity and communicating this activity to our members around the country, providing congressional education, and establishing a center of expertise on transgender issues.
NCTE also works to strengthen the transgender movement and individual investment in this movement by highlighting opportunities for coalition building, promoting available resources, and providing technical assistance and training to transpeople and our allies
NCTE sees this type of assistance as strengthening new and existing transgender organizations and our allies, initiating coalition building, and empowering state and local advocates who can mobilize on the federal level.
The National Center for Transgender Equality is a national social justice organization devoted to ending discrimination and violence against transgender people through education and advocacy on national issues of importance to transgender people.
By empowering transgender people and our allies to educate and influence policymakers and others, NCTE facilitates a strong and clear voice for transgender equality in our nation’s capital and around the country.

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Trending Transgender News Stories

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Cassidy Lynn Campbell, Transgender Homecoming Queen, Says She’s Been Targeted By Bullies In Tearful Video

How Not To Be A Pirate


Let me apologize to all of you who may not be interested in this sort of thing, I know it isn’t what you normally expect from me, but it is something I am interested in and I felt it was a good thing to share.

For as long as I can remember, certainly since I was middle school, copying and sharing was just part of what everyone seemed to do. Back in those days it was copying music from vinyl records to cassette tapes or recording off the radio and sharing with my friends. When I became aware of computers, it was much the same. The difference was, with software it was an accepted practice, in fact there magazines dedicated to providing the code for different uses especially games. The music side was different, with songs being copyrighted, but as long as we weren’t selling anything we thought we were fine. Of course we know now this isn’t the case and getting music without paying for it is theft.  Which brings me to the point of writing this. Unlike those early days, much of mainstream software is intended to be paid for, thus the whole End User Licensing Agreement or EULA. If you have ever had to reinstall Windows on your computer then you are at least aware of this. Commercially available games are the same and if you use a computer for work, then odds are all the programs are licensed.

The problem comes in when someone decides, for whatever reason, to make otherwise paid for goods available for free without the permission of the people who created it. This is know today as Piracy, though to be honest, the name doesn’t quite fit. Still it is the point behind it which matters… getting something which would otherwise cost you money for free when it isn’t your right to do so. This has been an ongoing issue for both the music industry and software companies. Despite all of the rhetoric, it really is a serious problem especially for small developers and independent artists who simply cannot afford the lost sales. It may not be as expensive as providing physical media, but making a product available online still cost something and the money has to come from somewhere.

On the other side of this is us. The consumers. Some can afford to pay for all the things they want or need, some of cannot. In fact, with the global economy the way it is, many cannot afford even the smallest of budgets for anything that isn’t a necessity to live; food on the table, a roof over our heads, clothes to wear, and a way to and from work…

It is true, there is more to life than just surviving. Anyone can do it but it isn’t much of an existence. We need something more, an occasional distraction, a way to lift our spirits, something to make life enjoyable. That is the purpose of entertainment. Add into this the tools someone may need to compete for a job, or to try and better themselves, or to learn something new and you have a market for for “Pirated” goods.

Most people aren’t out to make a statement, or to cause harm, though those people do exist; they just wish to share in something they otherwise could never afford. I’m not making excuses, just being realistic, unlike the majority of corporations and their lawyers but that is a different argument for a different time.

The question then is, can people find the things they want, and/or, need or at least a product which will provide it to them at a reasonable cost or free and do so easily?

The answer is “yes” though maybe not as easily as clicking a “Buy Now” button.

Truthfully, it takes a little motivation and perseverance, not to mention time, to scour the web to find things which are worth the effort, but it can be done and in the end you have something your not ashamed to have sitting on your hard drive.

Now before I go any further, I want everyone to have a safe experience which means taking some precautions. First, look for reputable sites such as NoiseTrade for music, SourceForge for software, or YouTube for video. Also be sure you have a Firewall and antivirus software. If your careful and use common sense precautions you can find what you need safely. There are many, many places out there in cyberspace where you find dishonest people who will do some very nasty things, so taking the time to do research and due diligence is key.

A Free Ride

Technically, nothing is free. You had to pay for equipment, an MP3 Player, a computer, a DVD/Blue Ray player, television, etc., etc. You also have to pay for an internet connection or phone line. Yet it is possible to reduce your costs to as near to free as possible.

Everyone’s first stop should be Google. Say what you want, but odds are, if your looking for something, you’ll find a link to it with a Google search. Use search terms such as “Free (what your looking for)”, “Copyright Free”, “Free Download”,  “Royalty Free”, or even “No Cost”. There are also any number of reviews and opinion pieces out there where people have taken the time to do the hard work for you and tracked down some very good sites, artists, and software available for free or little cost. For those use, “Review Free (your operating system)software”, or “Freeware Reviews”, or anything similar.

Oh, there is another cost associated with going this route… your time and effort learning something new. So far I have found it to be well worth the investment…

So, need a jumping off point? I’ll share some of the sites I use the most.










A note about YouTube. Clicking the link will take you to the main page, if your interested in movies, Google “youtube movies” and it should take you to their movie page. You will find there a lot of pay per view titles, but if you scroll down, there is a listing for “Free Movies”. Most of this is old, cheesy flicks, but there are some fun and interesting things to be found.

Another note… about software. More often than not you can find direct links to developers sites, the harder part is finding the type of software you want and then finding something free of cost which will do the job you need. I recommend doing a review search first for the type of software you want then doing another “free alternative” search.


I have to apologize to everyone. I posted several links to music I have found and wanted to share, but for some reason the direct link to download the albums from NoiseTrade aren’t appearing in the published posts on my blog. Even through they are present in the Preview Pane I use to edit before uploading.

I have had no issues with linking to YouTube videos though, and I use HTML for both. I guess I am going to have to simply create links to the appropriate pages so people can at least find the artists. It’s an extra step to listen before deciding to download, but I can’t think of another way to get you the information.

One example is “Just Be Honest” by Shannon LaBrie. Since you didn’t get a preview of this wonderful artist I’m including the video, I hope you enjoy.

Transgender News

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Some transgender news links.

TRANSGENDER VETERANS: Report finds discrimination is common

The Dark Side of Being Transgender: Having Little Choice

Columbus company helps transgender worker make transition

Gay and transgender competitors fire up “America’s Next Top Model: Guys & Girls”

Transportraits: Lorenzo Triburgo Captures Powerful Images Of Transgender Men (PHOTOS)