A Matter of Expression


I’ve been spending a lot of time reading blogs and forums looking to see what people have to say about how they like to dress in and out of public view. There are of course as many styles as there people to wear them, but as with any human activity, there are trends in what groups like to wear. Some are simple and understated while others are in your face.

One thing I have noticed is that in the Trans community, there is a scale in what people wear with Trans women at one end and Cross dressers at the other. That is Trans women tend to go with current styles while Cross dressers tend to want to stand out. Nothing wrong with either approach, but as with anything it is a matter of personal taste or the lack there of.

In looking at things, I think that I tend to fall closer to the women’s side of fashion sense. I just can’t  bring myself to walk around in high heels and a dress. If that’s what you like, great, but as I have said before I would rather be comfortable than fashionable or better yet, comfortably fashionable.

A good example of this is in footwear. I don’t own the boots above, but that’s because they are currently out of stock. They have a 2″ heel and I could wear these all day without my feet killing me. There are some other boots that have even lower heels and I do have a pair with a 1″ heel. Simple and comfortable. (Besides, I have a soft spot for suede).


As for clothing choices? Again, I am all about comfort. Soft fabrics, muted colors, things that just flow together. If the outfit above showed full length jeans it would be perfect. The interesting thing is, something like this in a different cut would like fine on men too. I have never thought that expressing myself as a woman required anything more than what’s in my mind. When all is said and done, it isn’t the clothing you wear, how much makeup you use, or wearing a wig that tells people your a woman. It’s what’s in your heart and mind. And if you don’t believe me, take a walk in Wal-Mart sometime and just people watch.


Then again, something like this for the house? Um, yeah, I could do that…

3 thoughts on “A Matter of Expression

  1. Kira,
    That’s one of the things I love most about women’s fashion. So many options, for all sorts of women. You can feel just like a women in a pair of flats as you can in a pair of platform heels. For me, the taller the better, although being 6′ 1″, I tower over my wife when wearing some platform heels, but they make me feel great.
    Although I agree that how you feel about your gender is completely in your mind, for me, it helps to have the wig, makeup, and clothes to go with it. I know that material things don’t make the person you are, but I think they can help give you perspective. Maybe that’s a shallow feeling, and maybe with maturity I won’t need those things as much to feel feminine. It’s an interesting thought.
    I hope those boots come back in stock for you.

    1. Katie, Thank you for the great comment. There is nothing wrong with wearing makeup or wigs if that is what you want to do. My point is simply that you can still be a woman without those things. Just as a man is still man even when he’s not wearing a suit. Clothes and trappings are great, but in the end it’s what’s in your heart that makes you the person you truly are.
      As for those boots…. they’ve been discontinued. 😦
      I hope to track down a pair on ebay or overstock soon.

  2. Becky,

    Thank you for the nice comment, being complimented on my taste is a nice ego booster.
    That third outfit is really too young for me too, but a girl can dream right?

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